Tips for Nichum Aveilim
This was produced by University of Cincinnati Psychological Services Center.
When helping people who grieve, it is important that you do NOT…
· Withdraw from the survivor, removing your support.
· Suggest positive outcomes from the loss.
· Mention that the death could have been prevented in some way (e.g., If only….).
· Rationalize positive aspects the death.
· Compare the survivor’s grief reaction to other people you know.
· Dwell on your own grief to show your sorrow.
· Become frightened by intense emotions and then retreat from the situation.
· Try to talk them out of their feelings.
· Force physical gestures (i.e., hug, holding hands, etc.).
· Take rejection by the survivor as a personal attack on you or your relationship
with the survivor.
Please Feel free to add any additional tips of things to say (or not to say)
When helping people who grieve, it is important that you do NOT…
· Withdraw from the survivor, removing your support.
· Suggest positive outcomes from the loss.
· Mention that the death could have been prevented in some way (e.g., If only….).
· Rationalize positive aspects the death.
· Compare the survivor’s grief reaction to other people you know.
· Dwell on your own grief to show your sorrow.
· Become frightened by intense emotions and then retreat from the situation.
· Try to talk them out of their feelings.
· Force physical gestures (i.e., hug, holding hands, etc.).
· Take rejection by the survivor as a personal attack on you or your relationship
with the survivor.
Please Feel free to add any additional tips of things to say (or not to say)
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